When she finally got the children back and was awarded full custody in Washington state, she fled to Maryland. She did not believe he would follow her, let alone be a physical danger to anyone, other than herself.
Soon, there were reports of shootings throughout the Washington metropolitan area. Once John Muhammad was captured, there were whispers that he had done it to get his ex-wife's attention.
At first, Mildred Muhammad thought that if she'd only stayed with him, he would have killed her instead of killing 10 innocent strangers and wounding three. The guilt and disbelief were overwhelming.
It's difficult to grasp the reality that a family member could cause nationwide sorrow, said forensic psychiatrist Helen Morrison, who has profiled dozens of killers. Also hard is the realization that it's not the family's fault.
Morrison said it's imperative to get the individual to talk about their experience -- their feelings, their doubt, their anger, their distress -- and try to put that in a perspective that finally leads them to say, "It's not my fault."
For Moore, grief, an unexpected emotion, was a pivotal part of her coming to terms with her father's actions.
"I would check out 'Death of a Loved One' kind of books. That was the most relatable help I could get because I was going through this death of his identity," Moore said.
Emotional conflict arises with the realization that there are happy times and rituals worth preserving in every family.
In fact, Moore said she tucks her daughter into bed in the same loving way her father did for her.
It's important to remember the good times, though she'll never forget the bad.
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